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Life..when time after time…

we just get it wrong. And in between the few times of joy at feeling what we’ve done comes falling down. The desperation of knowing time is running out to get something right,  there is a sense of failure, disappointment, and sorrow. At revisiting times of selfishness, dishonor, cheapening of the self, faithlessness in who we are or could have become, The tears begin to fall, and cannot be wiped away by the backs of my dampened hand, and fall in amounts that cannot stop of their own free will,

 


I’ve been debating on posting this ever since the “ME TOO” thing started and finally figured, why not. When I was 12 years old, 52 years ago in Grade 7 at Mountrose School, there were two young boys in our class, who got great joy out of harassing and molesting the girls in the class. They would come up behind the girls, while they were sitting at their desks and wrapping their arms around the back on the girl’s chair and grabbing them by the breasts, pinning them between their hands and the back of their chairs. Sometimes they even tipped the chairs back so that the girls couldn’t get their feet on the ground to escape. I remember telling the female teacher what they were doing and she shrugged it off as one of those boys-will-be-boys things. REALLY!!!!!!……is this how the silencing of women starts?

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Claire Rushby

Claire Rushby Virtually the same thing happened in my secondary school (early 1980’s). It has recently been brought back to me because of this ME TOO and it makes me very angry about how it was ignored. Let’s hope the world has moved on and that this IS stamped on in schools now. But I also wonder how the men who did carry out these ‘pranks would now feel if it happened to their daughters / granddaughters?

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Wendy Macdonald

Wendy Macdonald I think that this type of behavior was considered a “right-of-passage” of sorts and therefore, excusable. I posted this is the hope that the two then boys, who are on FB and share some mutual friends, will read it and if nothing else, think about it iSee More

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Sharon Bowden Kingsbury

Sharon Bowden Kingsbury You got me wondering who they were. Who was the teacher then?

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Bill Barczai

Bill Barczai Well done Wendy! Sharing this will help change the world!

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David Heath

David Heath I am sure there are tens of thousands of similar stories that could be told. It is time to hear them.

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Anjou was not unblemished by young males harassing girls in that way, it was a common if not accepted way of demeaning certain young women and would often carry over into the crowd mentality. Many of the guys, for fear of not being ‘accepted’ by their male friends, and who would not normally do such things one on one, would jump in when a ‘gang’ was around. Sad really, I witnessed and was a part of such harassment. Then as cowards are want to do they would begin labeling the girl with derogatory terms. One develops a thick skin when forced to confront and live with such behavior. Time to hear them, and time to change them!

October 31st, 2017  My response comment to Wendy MacDonald’s comment to recent outings, charges and arrests of  a slew of males in positions of power in popular and long sought out after employment males in power and their abuse of women employees or potential employees allowing themselves to be sexually abused/and/or threatened with ostracization from and ‘never’ finding work in this field again! post on the same day about abuses of women finally working their way into the main-stream.
Saving my reply to her post: Adding that these behaviors by men towards women nothing new. It has followed women throughout millennia and will likely continue to for quite some time. It will take generations to out these patriotic and to some degree, by virtue of keeping silent and acceptance, matriarch responsibility has its role to understand,, amend and heal within themselves and women throughout time. No sex, male or female is exempt for its part, they are now, however, responsible for and long overdue in bringing about a justice from within, and paying forward what only they can teach, reach and grant forgiveness  to, by teaching they who ignorantly were taught to dishonor women by forgiveness and moving forward in a new world with both stronger males and females

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